Posted by nightblinkers Wanted to let everyone know that I am over 4 months stable and still off of medications. There is success with this condition. I am truly thankful to God for this, because in all honesty, without the Lord, I couldn’t have made it through those difficult times, and having the courage to even try to stop meds after over 14 years of being medicated would have been too much for me to even consider. I remember those times sitting in my room in the dark sad, angry and agitated and full of anxiety, just thinking how much easier it would be to just give up. I have been in mental institutions and can understand just how hopeless it can seem, but don’t ever give up. We can be healed and have normalcy.
Bipolar Romantic Relationships: Dating and Marriage
Bipolar disorder, or manic-depressive illness, is characterized by severe mood shifts or a mix of depression and high-energy phases known as manic episodes. The symptoms of bipolar disorder are severe and can result in damaged relationships, poor job or school performance, and even suicide. There are several different types of bipolar disorders.
Bipolar I disorder refers to a condition in which an individual experiences a manic episode for at least one week and may or may not also experience depression. Bipolar II refers to the presence of a current or past hypomanic episode, which is a slightly less severe form of mania, and also the presence of a current or past episode of major depression. A manic episode is a period of abnormally elevated or irritable mood that includes an abnormal increase in energy level, and lasts for at least one week.
Other books on bipolar disorder include “Lost Marbles: Insights into My Life with Depression & Bipolar” by Natasha Tracy. For books about depression, the definitive work is “The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression,” by Andrew Solomon.
Posted on December 11, by Dennis Many people write to me about a number of different things. I find myself pointing out that a number of these people are relating red flags of an abusive relationship. Sometimes, we Bipolar people can do awful things during an unwell cycle that are entirely out of character for who we actually are.
There is a camp of people where those terrible things are a general part of their personality and character. They have toxic qualities about their personality that goes past what Bipolar Disorder is actually responsible for. A well-adjusted person who is open, loving, and accepting makes for an ideal target for a predator. In answering these messages, I will typically point out the red flags and then provide links to good resources that point these same things out.
A majority of the time, I get one of the following responses: Things were great until they got unwell. Abusive people are rarely completely awful people. Most of them have positive qualities about them.
Bipolar and Lying
Bipolar spouse What does research tell us about the bipolar spouse? Is it possible to have a happy and healthy relationship if you have bipolar disorder or are married to someone with bipolar disorder? The picture that comes out of the studies done to date is very mixed. What is particularly striking is the difficulty in separating cause and effect.
Is it the chicken or the egg? For example, we know that bipolar disorder erodes the quality or ALL interpersonal relationships, and marriage is no exception.
You might also like these other newsletters: Please enter a valid email address Sign up Oops! Please enter a valid email address Oops! Please select a newsletter We respect your privacy. Laura Dattaro, Michelle Mallet, Leah Yegneswaran, and Elspeth Rawlings clockwise from top left all have different but effective dating tips. Ryan Zamo, who was diagnosed with bipolar at 22, doesn’t recommend disclosing your condition on a first date. You can share your mental health status when you feel ready, and that doesn’t have to be on the first date.
Dating someone who’s judgmental of your condition? Drop the person and move on. For people with bipolar disorder , piloting the unpredictable waters of dating can mean much more anxiety than normal. Here, five adults with bipolar disorder talk about their dating experiences, and how they navigate both the dating scene and the crucial question of when to disclose their mental health issues. Dattaro was diagnosed with bipolar II disorder right after her 23rd birthday.
Greenberg agrees, noting that in someone with bipolar disorder , that excitement can be heightened.
Bipolar Romantic Relationships: Dating and Marriage
However, there is an exception in each category for mood episodes caused by a medical condition or drug, legal or otherwise. Manic episodes are hard for observers to miss although the person in mania may not see it , so that a diagnosis of bipolar I often occurs when someone has been hospitalized or has a brush with the law, or relatives insist on getting help.
Bipolar II This diagnosis calls for at least one lifetime episode of major depression plus at least one hypomanic episode.
A person that lives with Bipolar Disorder or Depression comes to learn loss intimately. It is a constant battle in our mind to try and avoid tearing our lives, loves, and friendships down to the foundation.
But their behavior may affect you, and you have to take care of yourself and your needs, not just theirs. Although there’s no easy solution, these tips may help. Read information from reputable web sites, books, and articles that explain the condition. The more you know, the better. Pay attention to what your loved one has to say. Don’t assume that you know what he or she is going through. Someone with bipolar disorder may still have valid points.
Encourage them to stick with treatment. They may not be able to see it as clearly as you do when their bipolar symptoms are active. Or they may deny it. When you see the warning signs of mania or depression, you can try to make sure they get help ASAP. People who are depressed often pull away from others. So encourage your friend or loved one to get out and do things he or she enjoys.
The Bipolar Puzzle
They say they would rather be in jail than be on medication for their mental illness. Their behavior is destroying them. Believe me, I get it.
Is it possible to have a happy and healthy relationship if you have bipolar disorder or are married to someone with bipolar disorder? The picture that comes out of the studies done to date is very mixed.
Lithograph from of a woman diagnosed with mania. Friern Hospital, London; a woman with mania. Period Main article: Mixed affective state In a mixed affective state , the individual, though meeting the general criteria for a hypomanic discussed below or manic episode, experiences three or more concurrent depressive symptoms. This has caused some speculation, among clinicians, that mania and depression, rather than constituting “true” polar opposites, are, rather, two independent axes in a unipolar—bipolar spectrum.
A mixed affective state, especially with prominent manic symptoms, places the patient at a greater risk for completed suicide. Depression on its own is a risk factor but, when coupled with an increase in energy and goal-directed activity, the patient is far more likely to act with violence on suicidal impulses.
12 BIG Signs You (Or Someone You Love) Has Bipolar Disorder
Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me here , peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. Just by being born. As an adult, Sally still believes this to be true. After her divorce, she had a third child with her ex-husband because she was afraid her second child, who is a bit of a daredevil, would somehow get himself killed and leave her older son an only child.
For years I have pleaded with my sister (I’ll call her Sally) to get help, to be assessed by a psychiatrist and get on meds for bipolar disorder. Several years ago my brother (I’ll call him George) went and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and I went a couple of years later and was diagnosed.
These obsessive bipolar thoughts may be a repeating song from the radio, scenarios such as a suicide scene or a replaying of events often negative ones , but obsessive thoughts seem to be the rule rather than the exception. Note that research bears this out indicating that people with bipolar disorder have higher rates of obsessive-compulsive disorder than the average population. Extreme Bipolar Thoughts It seems to me that simply by the virtue of extreme emotional experience, people with bipolar disorder think in the extreme quite frequently.
Everything feels like the end of the world catastrophizing. And, of course, there are all the thoughts that go along with these things. If our boyfriend looks at another girl he must be cheating. If we have a disagreement with a friend they must hate us. Not everyone jumps to the extremes, but people with bipolar seem to have that tendency. Anxious Bipolar Thoughts Of course, because people with bipolar have jumped to the extremes — usually negative ones — we sure the heck worry about it once we get there.
Distracted Bipolar Thoughts And then there are all the distracted-, multi-tasking-type thoughts.
A Brief Note About Abusive Relationships and Bipolar Disorder
He was diagnosed about 7 or 8 years ago, on meds for a while then we just ignored the problem thinking it would go away. Three years ago I left after a very bad manic episode and he would not seek any professional help. When I said I was leaving it turned into an even worse episode that landed him in jail for a DUI I think he was trying to kill himself with the use of the car.
I left for two months and he did everything right. Got help, swore he would stay on meds, let me have my freedom, etc. I thought I had to give it another shot for the man I loved, our dogs, cat and the life we had built together.
If someone you know has or may have bipolar disorder, it’s a good idea to know the signs and symptoms of the condition. In fact, everyone should be aware of some of the signs of mania and hypomania in case they see a friend, family member, or even a co-worker experiencing these symptoms.
Previous Next Bipolar infidelity Bipolar infidelity is a common — and tragic — consequence of mania and hypersexuality. NOW is the time to discover the facts and avoid the pitfalls. In this section we will discuss infidelity causes, cures, and some sad and scary statistics. This one of the most common but most taboo bipolar symptoms. This is a page I have wanted to write for a long time because it is SUCH an important topic, and because it is the issue I get the most questions and requests about.
However, it is a difficult subject for me personally because this was the main way my bipolar symptoms became obvious, and my most serious manic episode manifested. Sadly, too few people yet realize bipolar cheating is one of the most typical bipolar symptoms of all. My own bipolar infidelity destroyed my relationship, my finances, my self-respect, my happiness, my peace of mind, and my entire sense of self, so I hope there will be readers who can benefit from my mistakes.